I did not get much out of Al-Anon, but alternatively, I went to therapy for a number of years, which helped me greatly. Of course, I have great health insurance so it only cost me a $10 co-pay per visit, which is not accessible to everyone else. Perhaps I needed more work than Al-Anon was able to provide. Also, by the time I went to the Al-Anon meetings, I was DONE with my alcoholic husband. I did not want to listen to other people's stories of living with people who sounded just like my husband. I did not want to learn how to live peacefully with him. I wanted him dead, lol, but out of the house was good enough. I was ready to move on, but I had to work on myself because I realized something was really wrong with ME for letting his abuse go on for so long.
Anyway, one-on-one psychotherapy worked for me.