Don't forget, you gave him (and still do) a lot too. If not financially, then definitely emotionally. He didn't pay all the bills and buy food for charity, he got something out of it too, including a roof over his head with a really nice family. I don't know if you're doing what I sometimes do and that's look back at things with rose tinted spectacles. Try and make excuses for them, especially when we are trying to convince others that they're now being good and we now want to stay with them? I know I do it a lot! Like I said, I think you've made your mind up and I think should be positive and enjoy it while he's making you happy. We spend so much time being miserable with them so why not be happy for a while if you're going to be with him anyway? Again, just safeguard the children :-)