I couldn't find the thread =\. Since my breakup my ex has been contacting me with all sorts of texts. Some I can tell are under the influence, others saying how she doesn't want to lose me, and others just giving me an update, others jabbing at me, etc, etc.
My line is to only respond to the ones that involve us meeting up one last time. I'm glad I only had 15 quick mins to break it off as I didn't want to get "talked" back into a bad situation. I agreed to talk it over with her later once some of the smoke had cleared. I believe this is fair and the right thing to do for me and her, closure wise.
Sounds like you are still sorting through a lot of understandably difficult feelings. How about this. Any contact that would make you, or ends up making you feel bad, spiral, takes time from you and what you have to do...draw the line there.
my 2 cents.