Originally Posted by
involved 
I have been reading the steps over on the alcoholics board and some have taken step 4 more than once. Recovery is an ongoing process it seems and some things are yet to be reveled also pertains to the aa's.
I believe that the idea is that a person, whether AA or Alanon, is continuously working on one step or another, not that once the steps have been gone thru, the slate is wiped clean and all is good.
As I grow and learn, I would expect to find something more/new in each step as I return to it, hopefully as a slightly more mature and wise individual, so there would be value in repeating the steps.
And yes, it is pretty annoying to have to admit that we, the Alanon folk, have to make amends too, when we have gone around for so long believing we were blameless, the GOOD ones in the relationship, and so why should WE have to do anything about the royal mess we're in?!?! Hmmm....once you start to look at it from a different angle, we're not quite so innocent....