waiting for someone else to make amends to us for the wrongs AS WE SEE THEM is an effort in futility. step 8 tells us to make a list of all persons we have harmed and become WILLING to make amends to them all. that means the list usually has two parts...those we ARE willing to make now, and those we aren't ready to make yet.
making amends can take many forms. depends on the level of commitment and honesty by the amends maker. the AA Big Book gives a clear outline on how amends may be made. however it also says that amends might not be accepted.
no magic words will heal YOUR pain. those things stuck in your craw are, wll, in YOUR craw. you decide how long you carry those things around inside you. waiting for him to fix it continues to give away your power.
lexie brings up a very good point. that the steps are not just for the addict/alcoholic. we can take them for ourselves...take our own inventory, honestly assess the things we have done that hurt others and then make a list and become willing to make amends.
I always find it an interesting study in human nature that the non-addict tends to skim thru the steps til they come to the 'but what about me' step - aka step 9, as if steps 1 thru 8 are a walk in the park!