I have been reading the steps over on the alcoholics board and some have taken step 4 more than once. Recovery is an ongoing process it seems and some things are yet to be reveled also pertains to the aa's. I also wondered how do they know and what does it look like when the amend is sincere...so I googled how to make a sincere apology...lots of info! To me it is necessary that empathy and acceptance of responsibility is included as part of the apology to make an amend for the hurt in order to right those wrongs. I do understand that my rxab is sick and do not hold a resentment but there are still wrongs that need to be put right! Thanks Mike...forgive but don't forget.