Originally Posted by
KKE 
You're not the evil one and you're definitely not to blame.....
The blame stuff i find the hardest thing to cope with. When i first came on this board I genuinely thought I was to blame. I now know that's utter cr#p. I'll never forget how it felt though, being told it was my fault that my partner drank. It's just horrible.
Hope it gets better for you....
Yes, this. It was my fault he was drinking, so he had to leave. Straight into the arms of another alcoholic. Sure, he made mention of "getting sober" of "finding himself'...Sure honey, I believe you, I am the trigger, it's all me and you need to leave to save yourself.
I almost wish that I was. At least he would have gotten help and stopped drinking. THAT, that would have been a good reason to leave.
It wasn't me. It never was. My enabling just delayed the inevitable.