Hi Carlotta... Great idea starting this thread. The way the forums are structured it can give the false impression that there is some sort of Chinese Wall between Friends and Family posters and those on the other side. There is in fact a lot of cross over and knowing this I believe can be of great help. My own personal story that builds up to this is as follows (I'll try to give a condensed version). I dried out for over a year while my GF continued to drink. Early on I posted mostly on the Alcohol/Addiction threads. Without consciously realizing it I was increasingly posting in Friends and Family threads as they related to the experiences that I was going through. The one thing I will say if you are in the thick of getting in some quality sober time, make that your priority as dealing with other Issues can cause unnecessary stress. Just know that this stuff is fixable and It helps greatly to understand both sides of the coin. Many of us are both sides of the coin as well.