Originally Posted by
DG0409 
I think it is a warning sign that when you brought up the threat he said "I was angry and hurt." It implies that he thinks it was justified and OK for him to do that if he's angry.
Bingo. This is the attitude of ENTITLEMENT that most abusers have. If there is a good enough REASON, then they are entitled to threaten, to hit, to use whatever force is "necessary." After all, if you didn't "make" them do these things by leaving, by defying them, by whatever got them ticked off, they wouldn't "have" to do it.
I would think really hard about that thought, Sueski.