Welcome Darryl. I guess it depends on the circumstances. Sometimes you never get "over it" but can get "through it." Pain over a break up is different than the pain of losing someone to death. I don't know which you're experiencing so it's hard to know what to say.
I notice you're from Birmingham. I've visited there a few times and really enjoyed it. Maybe you can go out and listen to some of the great live music around there to distract yourself from feeling bad.