I found the sort of friendship you're talking about on the monthly support threads. I would consider the people who have shared their journeys with me from the very beginning to be very good friends. We have sort of grown-up together. After a year or so of sobriety our conversations have evolved from how to stay sober to how to live life! A couple of those friendships have moved beyond SR into real life now. We are scattered all over the world, unlikely ever to meet up, but that's unimportant. I know where they are and they know where I am if we need each other.
Have you thought about joining one of the monthly support threads? You can always strike up a PM conversation with someone who seems to understand and support each other privately? That's what I did. And still do!!
People can be hesitant to be too open on a public forum.
Have you also got support in your real life?x