On the whole marriage/husband topic.....I have only been married for 4 years so don't feel like I can much advice, but marriage is hard work. I watched my parents get divorced after 20 years of marriage. My mom found out that my dad had been having an affair for many, many years (he is now married to that woman). She always says the thing that killed them was they stopped communicating and "having fun". They simply grew apart. No excuse for my dad to have affairs, though,
Anyway, my point here is don't stop talking and be honest. If you are unhappy, have told them about it, and nothing changes than shame on them! In just 4 years of marriage my husband and I have had our challenges. My drinking hasn't helped, but husbands aren't perfect either
Hang in there ladies and stay strong.