Originally Posted by
papillon75 
Quote:Make no mistake about it, though,
spiders don't like their webs destroyed!
Expect some blowback.
This is so true. I experience this on the daily when I refuse his money, refuse his guilt trip and his pleas to bring us back together. It has been a year and a half and his persistence is the same as it was on the first day. I wonder HOW that can be. I wonder WHY he wont move on. It's scary to me, sometimes, when I think about his devotion to it. I wonder if he will ever leave me alone.
I like the idea of the double negative!
Thanks vale.
I left my AXH (addicted ex husband) 30 years ago. He is still in active addiction. He still blames me for all of his life's problems. He is still stuck in anger, resentment and self loathing. To be able to exist, he has to deflect some of that somewhere......I have compassion for him. But I know it's not my fault. He is an addict. I pray that he will find sobriety someday........because that's a really lousy way to live an entire life.
Just as it was not in my control to create all of my XAH's problems......it's not in my control to fix them.
gentle hugs
ke