I have never been dependent on his income. I have always taken care of my family myself. I have been single for 6 years and took care of my three children with no problems and no child support. I can do that again by simply working more. He drug use got me behind on some of the bills. Nothing major that one paycheck of his could not fix, but I do not want to start a life without him in debt. I am not dependent on him. It was nice to not work so much sometimes and have more time with my kiddies, but I could work as much as I want and pay bills just fine without him to take care of also. And what I am scared to death about is his parents. I don't know how to talk with them and explain to his mother that by taking him in she is enabling him. Hard to tell a mother that. It was hard for me as his wife to realize that I was enabling him at times and to stop doing so. And I do go to therapy. Trying Al anon, but it's a little to Godly for me at times.