Thankyou everyone for the great advice. Update: I stuck to my guns and we are no longer together. He moved in with his family but more importantly me and my kids are very happy and back to a peaceful happy household!! I'm loving it. Just celebrated my daughters graduation from HS on Saturday and I start back to school for summer quarter in a few weeks. Back to focusing on myself and my kiddos. Thanks for the info about your experiences and for the info on the local meeting at the Alano club which is where someone took me to my first meeting when I was at my lowest point.