Welcome to SR! This is a great place for support. There is a ton of advice, and encouragement with all forms of recovery. I understand the deal with parenting being that i am a step-parent, which I think may be harder for us in some ways. You can only do what you can do. Nothing about any of this is easy. You say that you are dealing with teenagers? I know that they are handfuls with all the hormones running rampant. I commend you. I am not looking forward to my moody little guy when he hits the teen years. Yikes! I am praying for you.
There is no clique business happening here. I have found this forum to be a life line for me and my sobriety. Keep posting.