Originally Posted by
wolfpackfan45 
My best advice to you both is to get some counseling if you can afford it.
We did it and it worked.
Sometimes beautiful can rise from the ashes.
If you can't afford a private counselor maybe you can go to a priest, minister, or rabbi. Many of them don't charge a fee.
sounds like our story
all was very well in the end for the wife and I
Christian (free) counseling was a blessing for us
nice to hear the other side shared