Dearest Magic,
First let me just say that I agree with alot of what you posted...most of it in fact. My very sanity was saved by Alanon and the 12 steps are still my first love.
The things that I have gained here I could not have gotten in the structure of the AA program. I have been opened up to additional literature for instance. I am a questioner and seeing the same lessons in different words only strengthens my recovery. I have also learned that there is more than one way to recover. I am proud of that.
Hugs,
JT