Originally Posted by jkb
I have no "strong sober identity"
hmmm, I don't know about that. I don't even know you, but you have expressed yourself here very clearly as a non-drinker. Sometimes it's when our relationships with others come into play, it can feel like we don't know who we are anymore, but you do Jess, and you like the real you. Maybe others don't have a strong identification with you as a non-drinker. That will take time.
Relationships are not built or sustained on whether or not a person drinks alcohol. Not solid ones anyway. So don't even let the Beast play that angle. I agree with GT, your self-awareness has become so strong. That's all YOU (sober identity)...not the beast.
Originally Posted by fini
sure, but I'm talking about my own actions.
uh...yeah, and I was talking about mine. A differing opinion does not imply judgement.