do not forget that your sweet little girl is absorbing the tension--even if she doesn't show it. We sometimes forget that they are little sponges--absorbing and recording everything in their environment.
dandylion beat me to it. I can only help but wonder what your little girl is learning from this situation. That it is okay for a male to berate a female? To choke a female? etc
Please take a gander over at our Adult Children of alcoholics/addicts to see just how this is going to affect her on into her adulthood.
Don't be such a stranger, you can come here and get help and ES&H from folks who have been where you are and have grown away from the situation and are living decent peaceful and somewhat serene lives today.
Love and hugs,