My feeling is that alcoholics attract alcoholics whether wet or dry. I believe the ideal is 2 dry partners obviously as I well know from experience the other is a hell of a ride however it will always end in tears. As an overly romantic young kid lying in bed all I would dream about is to be able to look back and forth into each others very essence and just get it right off the bat and then spend the rest of your life getting to know the rest. I think it can be tricky if one partner has no tangible comprehension of that very core. Empathy can only be attempted for so long.