One of the reasons I continue to visit this website is to see how common and repeating
these patterns are. We all think our 'addictive adventures' are in some way unique.
But they are in NO WAY UNIQUE.
So true Vale. So so true. Needingadvice - I can't tell you how many of the same things my ex did. One time he said word for word in a voicemail "if I put a bullet in my head, you will have no one to blame but yourself!" This was the day I told him he could not go on vacation with my four year old and myself because he was whacked out on drugs.
yes, I was nagging, controlling, all those things. I was called way worse than that. Everything was my fault. It was the things i said always. Your situation is not unique! Truth is that this is NOT your fault. You are being manipulated and controlled. Please do NOT believe this is your fault.
I'm glad your babies are safe. Focus on them, not him. He's a big boy. He can take care of himself. Your babies need you!