Thks everyone!
Ha thks vale, yes starting to figure this out myself. Think my hubby has it tattooed on his forehead at the moment
And mstrust, I thought about what you said. My addict says I'm controlling, nagging, bossy, etc. i know i can be with him but he just has no responsibility. for example, i 'nag' for him to pleAse be home by 2.30 to take our daughter to swimming lessons. He says stop nagging. then, once again ge arrives home at 4pm 2nd week in a row & one little girl is very disappointed. i dont think im controlling im asking him to do something?? i dont know this codependency thing can be confusing. wats controlling & wats them just being an a**. My close friends, work friends, family on the other hand say the complete opposite. My sister regularly tells me I too casual & easy going! Ha. One good thing my addicts taught me though, I certainly don't sweat it on the little things anymore. I've got a much bigger secret problem to keep me occupied!
Thks for listening!