Dear sunshinegirl, i sure can relate to the exhausted part. It sounds like he is at a point in his disease that you are n o t really going to find any completely sober time. It will only get worse unless he goes into treatment. It would be dangerous for him to stop on his own (without medical detox). He actually "has" to drink at this point to prevent withdrawl symptoms.
You do need to talk to someone face to face about how you go about extracting yourself from this situation. There are some good websites on the internet (domestic violence web sites) which give good instructions about how to leave a dangerous or angry partner. Domestic violence counselors also have their hands o n all the resources that you might need for help. All you have to do is pick up a phone and they will walk you through every thing. They are there if you just need someone to talk to. You aren't obligated to anything just because you talk to them. They do not pressure and they do not judge. Their only goal is to help and support you.
There is help and you don't have to stay "trapped" by an angry alcoholic.
We are here for you 24/7.
dandylion