my anger eased up mainly because I didnt like feeling that way anymore and tried to figure it out. I really never gave it much thought how it affected my wife. reason being is she has her fair share of flip out sessions as well that i'm expected to remain tolerant of etc... and she doesnt seem to care how i feel about that.
But I figured it was up to ME to get my stuff in order i couldnt go on being that angry. It took time but its not so bad now.