Originally Posted by
mareahh 
This is what I'm doing. I'm obsessing over him using drugs again. He tells me that I can't worry about that because ill be miserable. He says well I don't want to use drugs. I don't have plans on doing drugs. What's that mean?!?
Some of the wisest words I have been told have come out of the mouth of an addict. This is one of those cases. If you worry about his relapse, you'll drive yourself nuts. His sobriety or relapse is out of your control. "You" are within your control. Your obsessive thinking is within your control. Your worry is within your control. Perhaps it's time to stop driving his bus and start driving your own.
gentlest of hugs
ke