I don't know. Do you feel she's asking you these things because she has an agenda for your life? Or is it because she just doesn't want to miss out on something new? I know my son gives me so little detail and I'm a detail person. I have to know details to grasp concepts in general. So when I ask detailed questions, and he thinks he's answered me successfully with his short answers, I will follow up with more detailed questions. It drives him bananas!! But it has nothing to do with codependency and everything to do with the way we communicate so differently.
I think the bus line question was a little too much "help" but sometimes those questions are meant to spur the conversation, not to "help". Since you know your mom better than any of us would, you'll figure this one out!! Boundaries are always good. Feel strong and sure when you set a boundary. It's really ok. Moms even understand that!
