So do we tell them about Al-Anon?
Ok, so I have gone to a few Al-Anon meetings when my ABF was at work. Now the kids will be out of school soon and I would like to go more often. My eldest can watch the little ones. However, like most kids, they are not great about keeping secrets.
I do not think my ABF needs to know where I am, especially since the days I go are when he is at work. He knows that I think he needs a program, and I am not going to bash him over the head with that. It isn't so much that I am afraid that he will find out - I need to do this for ME and I do not want his shame, etc to in any way affect how I feel about going to meetings and I do not feel like it is his business.
My plan is to not lie about what I am doing. If he confronts me I will simply tell him where I went - no further explanation necessary. I will not get into it with him (he probably wouldn't say much about it anyway - just stew and be upset privately).
How did you all handle the issue of meetings with your alcoholic?