legna...when you started using, did you do so in a vacuum, or in the company, influence or connection with other addicts? when you wanted to go get high, did you go visit the non-using mom with 3 kids trying so desperately to keep it together, or did you go find another addict, drug user or a dealer to procure your drugs? I think the question is valid...especially when it comes from someone who is not at all familiar with the "lifestyle".
this is not the forum to DEFEND addiction....nor to imply that when there is discussion about what addicts DO, it is a demonization of every individual who has ever been addicted. it's about loved ones trying like heck to begin to understand why the people they love so dearly are doing these awful, incomprehensible THINGS. why they steal, lie, disappear, use, act so damn weird, get so hostile, steal somebody's great grandmother's wedding ring....drive drunk with their precious babies in the car, are no shows to their child's game or recital....WHY oh why can't they just be home, safe, sane, and sober?