Hi Abe,
Welcome! You will find a lot of different ways that people get support when you look around here for a while. I am also 38 and have young kids at home. My drinking was also getting out of control and after the New Year I decided it was time to make a change. After several failed attempts (2 weeks off, slip up for a few days, back to sobriety and on and on) I decided to try AA. I have been attending about 4-5 meetings a week for nearly 2 months. After my latest slip up about 2 weeks ago I decided to seek out intensive outpatient therapy. My program is 3 3-hour sessions a week for 6 weeks. So far I am 1 week in and am liking it. I have been sober for 9 days. Between that and checking in here daily I am hoping this will finally be what it takes to get sober permanently. All I know is that I am not giving up. Every time I fail I get back up, assess why I slipped, and try to make a change for the next time.
Hang in there. I wish you the best. PG