Originally Posted by
butterfly2013 
Oh, and he would always refer to himself as a "monster" while drunk, and then he would go on and on about how "special" and "different" I was, that I was unlike any other woman he has met before because I was so wonderful and amazing and such a great mom. He would also compare me to his mother.
I know it's pointless to ask "why," but it still hurts.
With my second husband, I did not find out (or pay attention) when he told me things about his mother, how his tone and face would change.
He was saying good things, but like he was smelling rotten garbage at the same time.
Comparing his wife to his mother is not a good thing in my book, and the next man who says something like that to me, I will run like the wind.
Some lessons are a long time coming.
I hope your pain is easing and you are free once again.
Beth