Welcome to SR, jordana. I'm sorry your son is dragging you into his problems. I think you will find a lot of support in our Friends and Family forum. Here's a link...
Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
You said,
I can't get into his head & I'd almost rather not talk to him than try to deal with his moods & blame game. I can certainly understand you feeling that way, but it isn't his head you need to get the idea into...it's yours. You DON'T have to talk to him when he starts his blame game. You are NOT to blame for his issues, but you will never convince him of that, so, you have to do what is best for you and avoid him when he starts acting that way.
Again, welcome to SR, and please visit the link above. You will find a lot of support here.
