The last time I saw my AXH I had a hard time holding back tears. I thought "this is what the man I loved has allowed addiction to reduce him to?"
When he was sober he was witty, funny, caring. Add liquor and he's a demon.
I tried for many years hoping he would hit bottom and find recovery. Even after I left him. I doubt he ever will, now. It's like a shipwreck. Save whomever you can. There's no reason to go down with a sinking ship just because someone else refuses to acknowledge it's sinking.