Originally Posted by
onipar 
I guess I just can't help but glimpse the future sometimes, and like Crazed said, when I do this, I can only see things getting worse. It is this, plus the sting of possible lies and deceit that worry me.
"Possible" lies and deception? Sounds as if this is already taking place--and it will not get better, as you astutely note.
There is nothing to compare w/the sinking feeling in your stomach when you finally start to realize how many, many, many lies you have heard over the years, how much of your life has been based on what turned out to be deception, and how all the "good" things you did have been used and abused, leaving you wounded and betrayed.
Please, don't go there. Continue to read and learn here. Check out several different Alanon meetings. You cannot help her, only slow her down from her learning process. What you CAN do is protect and educate yourself. Please do.
Wishing you well.