Originally Posted by
DroPsoJuPiTeR 
i think going to alanon tonight will help me, alot...
i also think that leaving would help too, thought about it many times,
ttthat doesnt solve all the problems though.
he is a father to 3 kids and i dont like decisions he makes when i AM HERE
so i dont know what kind of decisions he will be making when i am NOT HERE
i know im not the only one with this dilemma but it helps to get it out
Well, you have a lot of things you need to consider. And when you consider them, you have to think in terms of what's not only best for you, but what's best for your children. You also need to consider them dispassionately. That may be difficult for you.
What I can tell you, though, is if you say or believe that things won't get any better, then they won't get better. But if you say that things can and will get better, there's a good chance that will happen.
ZoSo