Originally Posted by wanttobehealthy

You sound so strong and determined and those qualities will get you far.

Something my lawyer told me is to talk about the kids (I have 2 young girls) in OUR children terms vs MY. I have the same concerns as you about my xAH's judgement and safety with our girls and I have tried my best when talking to counselors or the guardian ad lidem (court appointed and an idiot who buys xAH's talk) to present things as I feel (which is SOLELY about the girls). I do not disparage xAH or talk about the girls as mine alone. I have stated that our girls are my main concern and their safety is my main concern and that I want the girls to have time and a relationship with their dad but that for THEIR sake we need the court to set safe boundaries so we can both be sure they are safe.

What I would like to say would be more "me, my concerns, my girls etc" but my lawyer wisely told me that sounds more hostile and I want to sound as cooperative as possible while still maintaining concerns for the girls safety...