Originally Posted by
Clary77 
The use of manipulation causes us to question ourselves so we don't question them as much. I know that one of the main reasons that my ex doesn't want me around is because I cause him to question what he is doing and he doesn't like it. He might actually have to admit to HIMSELF he has a problem.
I have thought the exact same thing. When he is going to drink, he avoids me, which I think is because he knows he has a problem, and he knows I know, too. He knows that what he is doing is killing himself, and killing us, but he does not want to actually admit that. And, when he drinks, and lies and deceives and treats me like crap, I think I am doing something wrong to cause him to treat me like that. I think I'm the one with the problem, and not him.