I am sorry I know this must be very painful! Newly married doesn't sound like something you need to turn a cheek to his behavior or this may be a rough road! My XABF was a horrible A & cheated all the time. I made excuses and believed his excuses! I so wish I had done things differently FOR MYSELF bc I DESERVED better but instead I hung in there for yrs doing tons of damage to myself. Here I am still trying heal the pain! I wish I had listened to my mother as a child ...."what we permit we promote"! I hope you find peace.