I got sober in October and the first 3 months of my sobriety, my therapy sessions and my AA meetings reeked HAVOC on my relationship with my boyfriend. I didn't break up with him (we live together) and we've gotten through the rough part. But, I'll tell you, there were many of times where I wanted to throw him out a window!!
they don't get it and they won't get it.
I do not appreciate him drinking around you though, and if you don't like it, say so. Your sobriety has to come first. Everything else WILL FALL INTO PLACE. I promise - this coming from someone who drank daily for 10 years...and has been sober 6 months!