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Old 04-30-2013, 04:13 PM
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Gottalife
12 Step Recovered Alcoholic
 
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It's your problem, not his. I remember my family offering to have a booze free home to help me recover, and I said the same thing. This is my problem, not yours - but it was nice to have the offer.

I spent a lot of time before I recovered trying to arrange things to my liking, with the idea that if everybody else would do what they were supposed to, I wouldn't need to drink. Sometimes I had a bit of success arranging things to suit me, but I still ended up drunk.
Eventually I learned that what other people do or don't do has absolutely no bearing on whether I get sober or not. Outside issues were not the reason I drank. My problem was internal.
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