Congrats on 131 days!
I too have never been arrested or lost a job but I am an alcoholic just the same.
Sometimes are loved ones are in denial as much as we were. It sounds like she has been and continues to be an enabler.
"The minute a person "helps" the alcoholic by shielding him or her from the full impact of the consequences of drinking behavior, that person has stepped onto the denial roller coaster with the alcoholic. An "enabler" assists in maintaining everyone's delusion that drinking isn't the problem."
Maybe she can look into Al-anon. Sounds like she may need some help to deal with what she is going through. Just because we have decided to change and are learning new skills are family members are still stuck were they were and are used to dealing with us on another level. They also need to heal.