Is he an alcoholic
Hi iam an alcoholic .... I was a functioning alcoholic for many years and then I suffered a traumatic event march 25th 2012 and I could not function. I drank because I couldn't face myself and I couldn't face reality. I drank by myself and only left the house to go to work if I made it to work. I would pass out on my couch most of the time I showered. I have been in aa since may 2012. I have bounced around. I was in and out for some months and then I put some time together I made the 6 month mark and went out again and I've been struggling yet I still attended and tomorrow is my 7th day sober.
Now my husband on the other hand who has been staying at his mothers house. I'm not sure if he is or isn't an alcoholic. He doesn't drink everyday like I had. However when he does its like something, the alcoholic of the family, I have never seen before. At first he is fine and then he starts to sweat profusely and he creates these delusions in his head and starts cursing, slurring, screaming. It kind of looks like a tantrum. One time shortly after New Years 2013 he was drunk and slapped me across the face because I didn't want him to pack up and leave in the middle of the night. There is immediate chaos once his delusions start. He constantly accuses me of having affairs with other aa members. I try to go to strictly go to women's meetings but there are only 2 meetings a week for women only. He gets mad that my childhood friend and his wife go to aa so automatically he envisions I'm having a threesome with them and then acts on it?
My question is he an alcoholic or just over does it? Is he actually hullicinating. I have recorded these episodes that he has on my cell phone and played them back to him the day after and he said i must have said something to set him off. He barely remembers drinking when he does and he starts to ramble. This Friday was the worst arguement ever. He called me every name you could imagine and hates being married to me. He blames me for ruining everything by going to aa. I can't friggen believe aa ruined my marriage. All I want to do is find peace within myself and not drink to quiet out the chaos in side me. Does he mean the **** he says during his blackout episodes or is this the alcohol. I'm very confused. I ve asked him a hundred times to come to a meeting. We took vows when we got married and I feel their just empty promises. I can't really forget the **** he says. How can I rest my head at night with the same man who I love to be touched by hearing "your a *****" "you gained weight ... You remind me of a fat short troll" "why did I marry you" "you don't go to meetings you go to sleep with the guys from the meetings" "I should have my sister break your jaw" "my biggest regret was marrying you".