addict in recovery
hello again...
as i posted a few weeks ago, i guess, my boyfriend is in recovery, far away, had been gone almost three months and will be gone at least two more. i am working on ME and he is working on HIM. when do we work on the relationship?
he keeps telling me that i need to go get help and go to meetings...and it really comes across like he thinks if i do this, i will better learn how to deal with him. i don't think he gets that i learn how to deal with ME better. for the record, i am in therapy and have been. i do a lot of reading and all that, but i don't currently go to meetings.
i get the impression that he wants me to get over all of what has happened between us, in my life, because of his addiction, without him having to deal with any of it. it seems selfish and self-absorbed. i get that he needs to focus on his recovery, but does that mean i should have to put all my needs aside?? i mean, the needs that i have that concern him?? i guess i don't get it and i thought i would be more involved in his recovery if our relationship was as serious and meaningful as he said he felt it was. i feel like i'm shut out and expected to just wait.
insight anyone??