i just spoke with him and he says he isnt going, i just dont want him to resent me . i think that if he wants to go then he doesnt need me. just like when he wants to go get high or get drunk he doesnt need me.
im not going to go... it would be nice to compromise yes but ive done that in the past and he ended up drinking or smoking and im not going to be a part of that.
my opinion is why put yourself there if it may end up affecting your recovery.
im starting recovery myself. im codependent and have issues im trying to work on, and im trying to decide whats enabling (maybe going with him) or supporting (going with him because he wants me to be there for support)
im only on the first step and i have no idea where to begin, and going will complicate things for me i think in the long run. he is free to make a choice im not his mom im his wife lol
thanks for your reply