Originally Posted by
Fallow 
And I do not desire any pats on the back. As a recovering alcoholic I am doing this for me and sobriety certainly is my own reward.
I do find it strange that after my wife got what she wanted, the wants have simply changed and she is still unhappy.
congrats on owning your sobreity
BUT in my opinion as you sound like my rah has that your wifes wants did NOT change perhapse you just have not yet realized what it is she needs.
She wanted you sober correct? and now it seems she is still not happy so what does she want now?
maybe she does not want nor need to be refered to as unhappy or having her wants changed, or a sad cheerleader or controlling or forgetful and irresponsible.
maybe she wants, NO NEEDS a husband who treats her well,is understanding and just loves her.