kkelly, I think you are on the right track.
Relationships change after sobriety. There's no way to tell how it is really going to work out until you both progress much further.
And I'll tell you something else. My first husband, who has been sober since 1980, is an awesome guy. He really is. I eventually felt uncomfortable in the marriage, and we divorced. We are still, however, very good friends. We successfully co-parented two great kids through some very challenging times. We still talk on the phone at least once every couple of weeks, though the kids are grown and he is happily remarried. All that is blessings of recovery--his and mine. Two people who grow and change may not grow and change along the same paths, but if both are healthy, sane people, it can eliminate rancor around any parting of the ways.