Sweetie it does not matter if their spouses or significant others are alcoholics or addicts, the way you 'feel' and the 'hell' you have been living in is the SAME.
We usually suggest Narnon OR Alanon because many times an area will have lots of Alanon meetings at different times to be more compliant with fitting into a person's schedule.
The purpose of both groups is to show you how to work on you, how to set your own personal boundaries, how to 'say what you mean, mean what you say, and not say it meanly.'
One of the first things you will learn is what we call the 3 C's:
You didnt't Cause this.
You can't Control this.
You can't Cure this.
Either group can help you.
J M H O
Love and hugs,