Folks....I believe dep1 is referring to someone else, and these are the things he has been "told"..... ( am I close, desp?)...
The only thing I can offer is I was that AW whose DH said " I just want my wife back". I'm very grateful that he stuck around long enough for me to give her back to him. I know it can't be easy for you and I wish you the very best..... we're a hard lot to handle sometimes.