Too smart and beautiful to quit?

Old 04-11-2013, 04:54 AM
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Too smart and beautiful to quit?

Everyone said I was different. Everyone knows I’m superior, I was sooo beautiful and sexy, I was such a male magnet, I had a perfect body, and everyone wanted to make love to me. I’m not unusual, just super entertaining and very interesting…

I lived alone for twenty years after my first two divorces. I’ve been drinking for over 40 years, why is it becoming a medical problem now? Drinking never did this to me before.
I can quit drinking without any help; I’ve done it a million times before.

AA is for blue collar people, not educated scholars like me. When I go to rehab I teach the classes because the staff is so uneducated. They just don’t get it.

Should I leave now or stay and wait for her to hit bottom?
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You don't owe it to her to stay for any length of time. BTW, there are some whose bottoms aren't achievable.

You owe it to yourself to be happy and healthy. Period.
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geez, don't you find that level of ego, grandiosity and arrogance a little offputting?
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Who has the drinking problem? Who needs to go to rehab?

I'm confused by the post.
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Everyone said I was different. Everyone knows I’m superior, I was sooo beautiful and sexy, I was such a male magnet, I had a perfect body, and everyone wanted to make love to me. I’m not unusual, just super entertaining and very interesting…
LOL This is what makes someone unattractive and uninteresting.

I lived alone for twenty years after my first two divorces.
No surprise there.

If you are asking what I would do...I wouldn't spend too much time with the person you are referencing. It sounds super unfun.
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Old 04-11-2013, 06:28 AM
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dEAR DESP1, I have a question for you: How much do you love yourself??

The answer to this question will determine your answer to the question you posed.

It strikes me that she has a high degree of narcissism. (under narcissism is always appallingly low self-esteem). Don't let her arrogance and grandiosity fool you. Without you to feed her propped-up self-esteem, she would probably hit bottom a whole lot faster!

Again, how much do you love yourself?

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I think this person is being sarcastic. Not sure why though
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Old 04-11-2013, 07:50 AM
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I am confused as well... Is she your wife?
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Old 04-11-2013, 07:59 AM
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it will all be only a memory

Originally Posted by desp1 View Post

I was sooo beautiful and sexy

I had a perfect body

everyone wanted to make love to me
many a drunk or addict suffers from an inflated EGO
amazing how more booze added with more years of life
will leave the beauty of yesterday far behind
it will all be only a memory
oh yes back then

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Old 04-11-2013, 08:02 AM
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Folks....I believe dep1 is referring to someone else, and these are the things he has been "told"..... ( am I close, desp?)...

The only thing I can offer is I was that AW whose DH said " I just want my wife back". I'm very grateful that he stuck around long enough for me to give her back to him. I know it can't be easy for you and I wish you the very best..... we're a hard lot to handle sometimes.
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Should I leave now or stay and wait for her to hit bottom?
It sounds like you are giving yourself two options: leave now, or leave later.

If you are going to leave anyway, what extra do you gain from waiting for her to degenerate further? Compare that against what would you gain from not having to deal with her drama sooner?
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I'm a pretty good guy...I like myself most of the time...
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Sorry....she is my wife...I try very hard to understand her but I believe she needs to get in touch with herself?
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Is there a chance...with the right meds and sobriety that she could have a life?
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Old 04-11-2013, 01:31 PM
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may be a great start for a new life ?

Originally Posted by desp1 View Post
I believe she needs to get in touch with herself?
no better way in which to get in touch with ones self
than
to get in touch with the Big Guy upstairs first
then
it all seems to come together

do you two ever go to church together ?

it may be a great start for a new life ?

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Old 04-11-2013, 01:34 PM
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Leave now.



Well you asked.
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Old 04-11-2013, 01:40 PM
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I can quit drinking without any help; I’ve done it a million times before.

So she quit drinking a million times and yet she is still drinking????

Hmmmmm How bout you, how do you feel , do you think you should leave.
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Sorry, but there is nothing in her comments that makes me think she's smart. She doesn't seem to know anything about her disease, and doesn't seem willing to learn. Why is it becoming a medical problem now? Because it is a Progressive disease, it will get worse over time. Can quit without help...done it a million times before? Doesn't sound like much of a successful track record. AA is for those who are willing to leave their hats at the door and focus on a healthy future...I think that makes those attending more "educated" since they are willing to learn.

I would ask what is YOUR bottom? Are you happy with an egocentric person who is in denial, and therefore will not seek help for a progressive fatal disease? She may never hit a bottom, she may just continue on in her own little fairy tale world until the disease takes her. You can't save her, but you can save what 's left of your life.
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I did the math and she has to be at least 55, with 40 years of drinking under her belt. Youth fades. Unless of course, you are Joan Rivers and get 15 face lifts. Hide the cash! Between the booze and face lifts, tummy tucks, and liposuction, personal trainer, botox and collegen...you are going to be really broke...

Ok, joking aside...She has to WANT to get sober. For herself. Get sober for you--Maybe a wee bit.
"drinking never did this to me before"...hmmm...looks like at least some kind of realization is setting in.

Please tell me you aren't really married to Joan Rivers....
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Old 04-11-2013, 01:53 PM
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desp1,
Let's start over. I am sure you are an intelligent person, witty, and able to communicate well. This one just seemed to be a little too far out there. So...what's the story? I am interested, and maybe starting a new post will put us on a better track for communication. That's why we are all here.
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