kkelly370 thanks for the great post, my best to you and your family!
An alcoholic's behavior can be devastating.
Coming from both sides of recovery, I never received apologies nor amends. I got bitter about this. I was the one making amends, and I did this grudgingly, boy what a MARTYR I BECAME.
These days I don't expect anything. I had to deal with my own anger and resentment right away, and not wait on someone else's recovery. I've moved on. The initial sobering up of the alcoholic was enough.
My life isn't based on anyone drinking/using or even sobering up.